It might be your Ex Boyfriend Barricade.
Your boyfriend is falling asleep now with a huge grin on his face. You’ve just rolled over to your side of the bed.
You’ve just put the craziest display of animalistic sex possible in this decade. Nonetheless, your frustration has just escalated to anger.
Because you haven’t been satisfied…AGAIN!
If you’ve tried one position after another; if you’ve been with several guys and none of them can please you. If you just can’t figure out what the problem is, it’s possible that you might be experiencing what I call an Ex Boyfriend Barricade.
The Ex Boyfriend Barricade is an emotional block your mind creates because of some hurt that you felt when you were in a past relationship. Your mind creates a block so that the next guy will not hurt you like the last one did.
Think back to your Ex boyfriends.
Do you remember how you had to open up to them? Do you also remember when you had to close them out of your heart? Maybe they hurt you and you had to close that part of your emotions so that you wouldn’t get hurt.
You may have lost your ability to connect with a man because of some emotional demon that haunts you from your past relationships, and when this happens your ability to feel fully satisfied in bed is BLOCKED.
Some women may have been hurt badly by an Ex and as a result, they developed secret feelings of unworthiness, or unattractiveness.
I knew one woman for example, who was unable to consistently orgasm with a man for 10 years, and this was because an ex boyfriend laughed at her once during an orgasm.
I knew another woman got cheated on and she was terribly hurt, so she wouldn’t let herself feel close to another man, but this also blocked her ability to orgasm during sex.
If you want to overcome your Ex Boyfriend Barricade so that you can fully enjoy yourself with the man you are with right now, you need to accept, forgive and let go of the hurt.
Getting Past Your Ex Boyfriend Barricade.
- Identify and observe your past hurt. Repressing your pain will only lead to bad sex in the long run, and there’s nothing any man will be able to do about that. Sometimes just looking at your past pain will help you let go of it.
- Learn the lesson from your Ex Boyfriend Boyfriend. Sometimes things happen that we beat our selves up for, but the reality is, in the given context, how could I have known any better? Understanding that you now know better can help to overcome your Ex Boyfriend Barricade.
- Talk to your current boyfriend about the hurt. Opening up to him about the past can be a good way to let go of it.
- Forgive and let go. Some people find it hard to forgive others when they are wronged, but is holding on to the hurt worth bad sex for years to come? We both know that you’d rather feel good!
I hold the view that sex is much more about emotions and mental stimulation than physical. If you have been hurt in the past, your Ex Boyfriend Barricade might be keeping you from awesome pleasure during sex.
Right now, I’d like you to identify a past event in your relationships that might have scarred you. Once you’ve figured that out, follow the steps above and LET GO.
Don’t forget to leave a comment to share what you learned from this experience!
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