In order to get “good” at anything, you must first master the basic skill before you you try the fancy stuff:
If you wanted to become a race car driver you better be able to drive a car.
And if you wanted to be a pilot, knowing a thing or two about flying might come in handy.
And if a common criminal is really good at lying and stealing, he is much more likely to become a successful politician some day.
The point is…
When it comes to a career, we “get” that we have to gain professional skills if we will ever hope to succeed. But what about relationships? What is the number one skill needed to have an AWESOME love life?
Can you think of an answer?
Obviously, this is a difficult question, but I propose that the number ONE skill you need to master your relationships is ATTRACTION.
Attraction
Attraction is to relationships, what money is to a business.
Let’s say you started a new company. But you didn’t want to start just ANY company…
You had the business idea of the century… Almost like your idea was destined to be the next Facebook. Let’s also say, that you had no startup capitol.
Even if you had an AWESOME idea, you might need employees, and equipment, and an office – and without money, you can’t afford any of these, so your business is DOOMED to struggle.
And of course if you DID have savvy investors backing you up, then you could become an international success within a matter of months…
Your ability to attract your man on a deep emotional level has the same effect in your relationships.
So let’s say your boyfriend likes you.
Sure, he’s attracted, but let’s face it – the last time his eyes glazed over in a feiry gaze of desire was when you caught him drooling over a Jessica Alba picture.
With a few tweaks, you will totally be MUCH more attractive in his eyes. But without making those tiny changes, getting what you want in the relationship is just a little bit harder.
What’s it like asking someone to love you more if he’s only mildly attracted at the time?
How much easier would it be to get a solid commitment out of him is he found you completely irresistible?
Attraction makes EVERYTHING easier in a relationship. Mastering the skill of attraction immediately wipes away most relationship “problems”.
Nagging? Arguing?? Fighting???
A lot of this falls away when you have more control in the relationship – and this control starts with attraction.
Sparking Attraction 101.
- Curb Your Clinginess — Men are just like cats — they want what they can’t have. If you are clingy your man knows that he has all of the power in the relationship. While he might enjoy this idea for a while, he will likely grow bored of having all the power to himself. Allow him the gift of missing you. The more he notices your absence, the more attracted he is.
- Be The Prize – The price you put on yourself is the same price he puts on you. If you fully believe that you are a catch so will he.
- Become A Temptress – Temptation is psychological foreplay. Don’t just offer your love… play with him. Give him tome love, sex and attention. Just when he wants more…you hold back and take it away. This back and fourth makes him feel like you are unpredictable. If he always has anticipation being with you, but he never knows what’s coming next.
- Embrace Your Femininity — We live in an age where men and women are confused about their gender roles. We don’t even know how politically correct is to embrace our own gender-hood. The fact is, men really are turned out by feminine energy. Take the time to distinguish your feminine for masculine. Men are secretly mesmerized by a woman who knows how to speak with that right tone of voice, or touch in that certain way, or walk with sensuality. Replacing 10 masculine habits with 10 feminine ones could transform your love life forever….
Attraction is the main currency of love. The more of it you have in your relationship, the more control and freedom in your relationship. Luckily for us all, attraction can be increased, literally overnight, with minimal effort. Thanks again for reading!
Try these tips out and let me know what you thought in the comments below!
